Archive for February, 2007

Breaking Stereotypes

Friday, 22 September 2006
By Shams Ahsan
The Saudi Gazette

AS I prepare to embark on my five-week trip to the US on a fellowship, I was pleasantly surprised to receive a book with a handwritten note by the parents of Daniel Pearl, the journalist who was killed by terrorists in Pakistan.

“With your help, we can make it a better world. I believe Shams means ‘sun’ in Arabic, may bring light wherever you go,” wrote Ruth and Judea Pearl.
I was really touched by these lines. They know that I am Muslim. They know that their son was brutally murdered by those who call themselves Muslims. But they hold no grievances, because they look at the wider picture of humanity. They are compassionate because they know that those who murdered a citizen of the world – that’s how they described Daniel Pearl – were terrorists. And terrorists have no country or religion. Terrorism is a disease.

Violence is no answer to violence. Anger only begets anger. If everyone starts brandishing the sword, the world will turn into a battlefield. Humanity will become instinct.

But then God has given us these qualities of forgiveness and compassion which can make the world a peaceful place. Today one billion people follow Islam, because it spread the message of peace, equality, understanding, brotherhood and harmony. It was not spread through the sword.

Prophet Muhammad won the hearts of the people with love. He said, “A true believer is one with whom others feel secure – one who returns love for hatred.”

Many of us lack these qualities. But those who imbibe these traits are at peace with themselves and the world, for they have nothing but love to share.

Generalization is yet another judgmental error many of us tend to make. The Western world stereotypes Muslims by generalizing the actions of a few. Muslims generalize the Western world as their enemies. But this is far from reality.

In this backdrop, the note of the Pearls came as a pleasant surprise. Another one, which took me by surprise, was the offer by my American hosts to make special arrangements for me during Ramadan.

I have not even started my journey, and many of the stereotypes are already breaking.

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GA Family in Need

Assalamu Alaikum

A sister has asked to post a request of assistance for her and her children. She is too shy to ask on her own, but is able to show proof of her need. Her husband has recently lost his job and has been looking desperately to find another job to support her and the children. At this time her gas is scheduled to be cut off on monday and we all know that the weather is cold ( she is in Georgia ). InshaAllah she is trying to get an extension on that. Also her electric may be turned off if she doesnt pay her bill soon which means she wont be able to cook or wash clothes for herself and her children. If anyone is able to assist the sister , even if its just 5.00 please help her out.

gas- $318
elec- $145
phone- $100 = $563

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Mama, I Wants To Learn My Letters!

KNOWLEDGE was always, is now and shall forever be a powerful weapon to wield in any endeavor. It can build nations or crush them in the dust as it marches on as is its nature for it cannot be contained. It must always be expanded upon in order to still be a BEACON. A passage from one of my favorite novels comes to mind, the book is Five Smooth Stones and the quote is “When your people come into the light of learning, Mr. Champlin, they must drive their learning and their God abreast, yoked together? That is what you mean?” “Yes,” said Geneva. “I reckon that’s what I means. We got God here now, with us; we got him close because we needs so bad. He ain’t never far from us. . .” The question was posed to Geneva by a white professor who was trying to understand her great need to educate her grandson to the highest levels possible.

I believe from the sale of our first ancestor on the Auction Block to the first time a Freedman was knowingly cheated of the proper price for cotton or a crop he raised we, African Americans as a people realized that if we were to survive here in this strange land that we must educate ourselves and our children if we were ever to be able to stand firmly in these United States and claim our just due. In this memory and in their honor, I present a few of those first here for it is in their footsteps that we continue the Journey of Education!

1st African American Male College Graduate

Alexander L. Twilight, A Collegiate Pioneer

September 26th, This date marks the birth of Alexander Lucius Twilight in 1795. He, to all relevant information was the first African-American college graduate.

Alexander Twilight was born in Corinth, Vt., to a free Black family, graduated from Middlebury College in 1823, with his baccalaureate degree making him, thus far, the first African American to receive a degree from an American college. He was licensed to preach by the Presbyterian Church and served several Congregational churches.

Twilight became principal of the Orleans County Grammar School in Brownington, Vermont, and in 1836 built a massive three-story granite building, Athenian Hall, which became Brownington Academy. In 1836, Twilight also served in the Vermont state legislature, the first African American to do so.

1st African American Female College Graduate

Mary Jane Patterson
(1840-1894)

from Darlene Clark Hine, Elsa Barkley Brown, Rosalyn Terborg-Penn, Black Women in America: An Historical Encyclopedia, Vol II M - Z [Bloomington and Indianapolis: Indiana University Press, 1993] pp. 911-912

The 1860 census lists Mary Jane Patterson as one of fourteen residents in her parents’ household in Oberlin, Ohio. Two years later she graduated from Oberlin College, becoming the first Black woman to receive a B. A. degree from an established American college. Patterson devoted the rest of her life to the education of Black children.

Born in Raleigh, North Carolina, in 1840, Patterson was the oldest of Henry and Emeline Patterson’s seven children. In 1856, she and her family moved to Oberlin, Ohio, where they joined a growing community of free Black families who worked to send their children to the college. Henry Patterson worked as a master mason, and for many years the family boarded large numbers of Black students in their home. Eventually, four Patterson children graduated from Oberlin College. all became teachers.

Mary Jane Patterson’s first known teaching appointment was in 1865, when she became an assistant to Fanny Jackson in the Female Department of the Institute for Colored Youth in Philadelphia. In 1869, when Jackson was promoted to principal, Patterson accepted a teaching position in Washington, D. C., at the newly organized Preparatory High School for Colored Youth — later known as Dunbar High School. She served as the school’s first Black principal, from 1871-72, and was reappointed from 1873-74. During her administration, the name “Preparatory High School” was dropped, high school commencements were initiated, and a teacher-training department was added to the school. Patterson’s commitment to thoroughness as well as her “forceful” and “vivacious” personality helped her establish the school’s strong intellectual standards (Terrell 1917).

Patterson also devoted time and money to other Black institutions in Washington, D. C., especially to industrial schools for young Black women, as well as to the Home for Aged and Infirm Colored People. She never married, nor did her two Oberlin-educated sisters (Chanie and Emeline), who later joined her and taught in district schools.

Mary Jane Patterson died in Washington, D. C., September 24, 1894, at the age of fifty-four. Her pioneering educational attainments and her achievements as a leading Black educator influenced generations of Black students.

Bibliography
Bigglestone, William. They Stopped in Oberlin: Black Residents and Visitors of the Nineteenth Century (1981); Oberlin College Archives. Alumni Records. “Mary Jane Patterson” file (1981), and Lawson-Merrill papers, “Mary Jane Patterson” file, and “Patterson Family” file; Perkins, Linda. “Fanny Jackson Coppin and the Institute of Colored Youth,” Ph. D. diss. (1978); Terrell, Mary Church, “History of the High School for Negroes in Washington,” Journal of Negro History (July 1917)

1st African American Rhodes Scholar

Alain Locke, writer, educator
Born: 1886 Died: 1954
Birthplace: Philadelphia, Pa.

In addition to his long list of academic honors, Locke is credited with helping to initiate and propel the Harlem Renaissance. Locke graduated from Harvard University in 1907 and became the first black Rhodes scholar. He studied at Oxford from 1907 to 1910 and the University of Berlin from 1910 to 1911, then went on to receive a Ph.D. in philosophy from Harvard in 1918. Locke developed a strong interest in African culture and began encouraging black artists and musicians in America to explore their African roots through their work. Through his efforts, the Harlem Renaissance movement gained national attention. He edited and wrote numerous magazines, anthologies, and books about black life and culture. Locke taught at Howard University in Washington, D.C., for nearly 40 years.

1st African American Ph.D.

Edward Alexander Bouchet

physicist, chemist
Born: 1852 Died: 1918
Birthplace: New Haven, Conn.

Born in New Haven, Connecticut, Bouchet was the first African American to graduate (1874) from Yale College. In 1876, upon receiving his Ph.D. in physics from Yale, he became the first African American to earn a doctorate. Bouchet spent his career teaching college chemistry and physics.

1st African American College President

Bishop Daniel A. Payne

(1811 – 1893)

February 24th, On this date in 1811, Bishop Daniel A. Payne was born. He was a historian, educator and AME minister.

He was born in Charleston, South Carolina to free colored parents, London and Martha Payne. He attended a private school in Charleston, South Carolina and Gettysburg Seminary in Pennsylvania. He also did a great deal of studying on his own. Payne was the first Bishop to have formal theological seminary training. He, more than any other individual, is responsible for the A.M.E. church’s interest in trained ministry.

Payne was ordained an elder in the Lutheran Church in 1837. He was admitted to the Philadelphia Annual Conference in 1842. He was the first Black president of a Black college in the western world, (Wilberforce University), where he served as their president for sixteen years advising that the school be purchased by the African Methodist Church. Overall, Payne was the sixth Bishop of the African Methodist Episcopal Church. He built and nurtured churches in Washington D.C., New York and Baltimore.

He was elected the Historiographer of the AME Church in 1848. Payne was elected a Bishop at the General Conference in New York City on May 7, 1852, where he presided over the 1st, 2nd, 3rd, and 7th Districts. He was a serious author, his books, “History of the A.M.E. Church,” 1891 and Recollections of Seventy Years 1888 were his greatest writings and were an authoritative source of history of the first 75 years of the church. He was married to Eliza Clark Payne, the father of one child and the stepfather of four children; Julia, John, Laura, Augusta and Peter. Bishop Daniel Alexander Payne died on November 2,1893.

Reference:
An Encyclopedia of African American Christian Heritage
by Marvin Andrew McMickle
Judson Press, Copyright 2002
ISBN 0-817014-02-0

1st African American Ivy League College President

Ruth Simmons

(1945 - )

Simmons, Ruth, 1945-, American educator and college president, b. Grapeland, Tex., grad. Dillard Univ. (B.A., 1967) and Harcard (A.M., 1970; Ph.D., 1973). As a scholar she was primarily concerned with the francophone literature of Africa and the Caribbean. On the faculty and in the administration at Princeton Univ. from 1983 to 1990, she was associate dean of the faculty (1986-90). From 1990 to 1991 she was provost of Spelman College. She returned to Princeton in 1992, serving as vice provost. In 1995 she was named president of Smith College, becoming the first African-American woman to head a top-ranked college or university. While there she established the first women’s college engineering program and founded Meridians, a journal addressing the concerns of minority women. Simmons left Smith in 2001 to become president of Brown. Univ.

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The 6 Most Annoying Things Employees Say — And How To Respond

I just read a neat article on CNN.com entitled The Six Most Annoying Things Kids Say–and How to Respond. In this article, author Melody Warnick of Parenting.com talks about bad verbal behavior from kids and some techniques for responding.

You can read Warnick’s article at:
http://www.cnn.com/2007/HEALTH/parenting/01/15/par.most.annoying/index.html

As I read the article, the six statements are very similar to those we hear from our supervisors, peers, and staff in the workplace. The context may be different, but at the core, the needs are often the same. As managers, we’ll experience these on a frequent basis. Here are the statements from Warnick’s article, and some suggests from me on how to respond with adult children in the office.

“Mine”

This one is common with kids. If you have more than one child, you hear it on an hourly basis, no matter the age. With adults in the workplace, it signals some type of ownership, either physical or perceived. It often comes out when employees are attempting to take or at least maintain credit for an accomplishment. If you (as the boss) don’t take the time to recognize who did the accomplishment, you’ll open yourself up for this type of reaction.

Solution: Take the time to give credit to whom credit is due.

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“It’s Not Fair”

Common with kids, more common with adults. It usually happens when one employee is recognized over another. It can happen when one employee is reprimanded and others involved in the incident go free. I know it’s impossible to get the entire story at all times, and of course we can’t control perceptions, but do what you can to avoid this.

Solution: Take time to get the entire story. Be sure to recognize and reprimand fairly and evenly.

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“You’re Not The Boss Of Me”

For adults, it probably one come out verbally, but you can certainly see it non-verbally. You’ll see eye-rolling, shoulder-shrugging, and of course an employee’s tone of voice will spell it out too. It happens when you as the boss take real or perceived steps over the line and into a person’s values system or even personal life. Employees usually don’t mind the intrusion if it’s something positive, but any reprimand or negative statement will result in this.

Solution: Keep out of areas you have no business being in.

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“I Want It Now”

It doesn’t matter what “it” is, we all want it now. While you won’t hear it from employees, you’ll probably again see it non-verbally. This is a great indicator that your employees need some type of communication from you, possibly in a coaching situation. If they want a promotion, sit down with them and list out the steps. If it’s a pay raise, let them know what it takes to get that raise.

Solution: Talk to your employees - coaching techniques are appropriate here.

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“You Never Let Me Do Anything”

Employees probably say this when a co-worker gets to do something special or gets recognized and others don’t. It’s the follow-on statement to “It’s not fair.”

Solution: It may take a little more time and patience than you have, but explain the situation and your reasoning to the unhappy employee (I know you don’t have to, but take the time to do it ok?)

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“I Don’t Like You”

Kids say it as an immediate reaction to something you didn’t do for them. It’s a purely emotional response. Adults probably won’t have the guts to say it, but you can bet they think it. It’s done in a flash and when the emotion is spent, the feeling will subside.

Solution: Don’t do anything. Don’t react. Let the employee vent. If they’re a decent employee, they’ll apologize. Newsflash: Not everybody loves the boss.

So that’s it. Some simple thoughts on difficult exchanges. It’s all part of having good people skills in and out of the office.

Not telling you what to do, just offering you a suggestion!

Nailah, have an OUTSTANDING week!

Malcolm

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